Sexual Trauma and Self Care Resources in the Age of Aquarius
*Trigger Warning: Subject may be triggering, please opt out if you are not ready at this time
Peace family, Safi here. I hope all is well and that this message finds you in good spirits. Ascendance for me is an entity in its own right and we, the seven organizers, co-parents. For over a year now spirit has been wanting/making us address sexual trauma head on. Some of you have taken bold yet vulnerable steps to let us know that someone at the ritual (party) has caused you pain in some way and asked what could we do about this. Business partnerships were shifted based on sexual traumatic history. I’ve been embraced by the other organizers when having to share my personal sexual trauma. We have suggested getting all parties together for mediation to no avail. We have had to ban a toxic few. It's been intense. The truth of the matter is we don't KNOW what to do. Yet we have been giving this topic some deep thought.
Sexual trauma, shit, trauma in general has plagued the QPOC diaspora for some time. The beautiful thing is that we are in the Age of Aquarius and trauma as we know it is taking a huge shift. Aquarius, the ruler of humanitarian acts, revolt, innovation and technology is on our side. Police/governmental brutality is not new to our communities but it “going live” and being shared with the whole world in seconds is. Similarly with sexual trauma, folks are now loudly saying ME TOO. In order to revolt, folks must gather (humanitarian). We have been chosen/chose to come back to this space and time to spearhead this new era. We have ideas (innovation) and the technology to spread these ideas all over the world.
Here are some of the steps Ascendance is taking to make sure our space is SAFE(R):
Inspired by another innovative dance party pxssypalace on IG (go follow). We now have buttons for our party advocates.
As DJ Chinua has mentioned many times before, Ascendance is a “fuck-shit” free zone. If you experience or witness anything suspect please find someone wearing a button. If it's something that can be solved gracefully then we will do just that. HOWEVER, if a spirit is straight violating, they will be asked/forced to leave and will be removed from the invite list.
Where it gets interesting to navigate is if something has happened outside of the Ascendance ritual. Currently we are leaving this up to you all. You can opt in or opt out of attending based on your self care needs at time. Please know that while at the ritual we will shut down the music and deal with anyone who is causing harm! However, at this time we do not know how to handle these bigger issues yet on a larger scale.
Personally (safi), in the world I dream of and hope to see manifested one day, I would like to see a space where all parties are attended to for healing. I would also like us to have a Trauma Fund were we could collect monies for the time and ritual that goes into full circle healing. I would also like a person who is dedicated to the part of Ascendance. Most violators at one point were on the end of receiving pain. In the same vein, folks on the receiving end of trauma, the universe is doing a harsh initiation. This trauma, like Chiron in our natal chart, is meant to become our medicine. Giving us the title of Wounded Healer. We will practice and use this medicine on ourselves as well as our community.
Below you will find some resources of folks that took their pain and transmuted it back to wholeness. May this be a benefit to your self-care. This list is by no means complete. I would love to see more masculine (cis-trans) and Latinx energy on this list. All purple font are hyperlinks. If there is something you would like to added the comment section is open. I will be coming by monthly to accept or decline them. Wishing you all the best on your wellness journeys:
This movie was once on Netflix now it is available for purchase and streaming. “Once divided and devastated by an 11-year civil war, Sierra Leoneans now draw on ancient traditions of addressing issues within the safety of the family circle to make their communities whole again.” In the first 10 minutes a niece confronts her uncle about him and twelve other man rapping her. He apologies, she forgives, they hug and dance in celebration. The opening credits start!
“The transcendent story of Tonier “Neen” Cain’s emergence from drug addiction, multiple incarcerations and two decades of homelessness to become a tireless advocate and educator on the devastating impact of childhood abuse . . . and the need to rethink how we treat the shattered adults severely traumatized children become.”
Making Daughters Safe Again (MDSA) presents the extended trailer for its upcoming documentary, Who will love me?: Four stories of mother-daughter sexual abuse. In this compelling documentary, four courageous women share their personal abuse histories and paths to healing from an often overlooked form of sexual abuse.
BreakOUT! envisions a city where transgender, gender non-conforming, and queer youth of color can live without fear of harassment and discrimination. BreakOUT! seeks to end the criminalization of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (LGBTQ) youth to build a safer and more just New Orleans.
Women With A Vision The mission of Women With A Vision is to improve the lives of marginalized women, their families, and communities by addressing the social conditions that hinder their health and well-being. We accomplish this through relentless advocacy, health education, supportive services, and community-based participatory research.
Trinity Counseling and Training (si habla espanol) TCTC’s mission has been to provide high-quality counseling and mental health services in the local community.
Generation Five “It is estimated that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in six boys is sexually abused before the age of 18. For each of these children, there is an offender and the affected family and community surrounding them. For each circumstance of abuse, there is also circle of people who can play a part in allowing or preventing abuse.…”
Imaginaction We, ImaginAction’s artists and facilitators, share our experience and know-how of working with communities and organizations from around the world using theater and arts to create a more inclusive, creative, nonviolent world. Check out Theater of the Oppressed
Incite INCITE! is a network of radical feminists of color organizing to end state violence and violence in our homes and communities.
Reads (click to purchase)
Narrative Therapy A narrative therapy involves listening to and telling or retelling stories about unique and empowered people and the challenges and problems they encounter in their lives